Key Points for Increasing Responsible Behavior
Point # 6:
One way to gain our child’s cooperation is to be aware of the way we speak to them when they do something wrong or when they are not following through with a direction. If you are a parent that continually repeats directions it is possible that your child has tuned you out and hears your voice as mere background noise. Additionally, if your requests are ignored and go without consequence then your child will continue to be unresponsive to you. To gain your child’s cooperation it is often best to describe the problem is simple terms, state the importance, tell your child what you want them to do, (not what you don’t want them to do) and then limit your reminders. Make sure your child knows that your request is serious and ignoring it is not an option. Limit the amount of requests you make so that it is not overwhelming. Prioritize, choose your battles and build your expectations as your child demonstrates improved behavior. A child that cooperates is more likely to make choices that demonstrate their family’s values.