If Only I Knew:Parents and Children Benefit From Parent Education
No one is perfect but oh…………..how I wish I had known about the array of tools that could have helped me be a better parent. I didn’t know. I was confident. I was educated. Parenting would be natural for me.
I don’t take on all the blame. Family support, parent education, parenting are all almost taboo in the United States and perhaps around the world. Looking back all I can say is, if only I knew that I did not know. If only.
But I did not know that there were simple solutions and I struggled, like so many of us. Parents who struggle; it’s a big club with participants that cross all boundaries. We are young and old, educated and high school drop outs, rich and poor, optimists and pessimists, all religions are included and gender is not a factor.
Here is a list of the struggles my family endured. Struggles could have been avoided. If only I knew that I did not know.
1– Emotional challenges on marriage due to having and raising a child
2– Insecurity was fostered from lack of parental unity
3– Confidence was decreased from starting kindergarten before five years old.
4– Excessive worrying due to lack of separation from my child and myself
5– Reckless behavior as a result of enabling
6- Nagging rather than communicating effectively
These struggles caused harm to our entire family and most importantly, to the children. Thank goodness there was enough good stuff that allowed my children to grow up relatively happy and healthy. They are not perfect. Neither am I. But what if? If I only knew.